There are very few of us who are ever totally happy with their lot. The grass always appears somewhat greener elsewhere.

A reader wrote: ‘’I just feel so gutted at the moment because I’ve met a wonderful person on a dating website and we both think we have met our soul-mates in each other, but I just can’t seem to bring myself to believe that what he has told me is real, as I've never in my life felt this way about someone. I’ve had so many people let me down before I just think this will go the same way.’’ I’m all for treading carefully with a new romance and not jumping in with both feet, I actually encourage my clients to multi date right up until the time an exclusive and intimate relationship has been established. Here is a person who has been so hurt in her past and feels so insecure that she is reluctant to let her guard down in case she gets hurt again.

So just what is the perfect romance scenario?

Some people love that early fledgling relationship feeling, where you get shivers down your spine when they call or email. For some people, this will be the reason they are constantly on the search and never actually settle into anything with longevity.

For others, even the security and comfort of a sensitive caring partner and family will send them into woes of feeling trapped. We all seem to strive for and wonder what we don’t have.

From experience, it is only when you feel totally happy and confident in your own skin and you feel gratitude for the things you have – that your life improves with every week and month. If you treat each new positive happening in your life with appreciation other great things will always follow on.